How to Comfort a Loved One During Grievance
When you know someone who recently lost a loved one, the last thing you want to do is fail to reach out to him or her. They may not be approachable, however you must show some sort of support in whichever way you can.
Chances are they are going through a lot during the grievance process and have unstable emotions themselves. Although you may be unsure if you can make them feel better do not let that stop you from offering your support. Many times, you will not be able to understand what they are feeling. However, what is most important is that you keep your arms open so that he or she may come to you when they feel ready to open up.
Breaking the Moment of Silence
Approaching your dear loved one who recently lost someone close to them can feel like debate class all over again. Building the right words to say on top of being nervous of your presentation can prevent you from giving a speech. Among the prior example, you will find one similarity to helping a loved one cope, the need to communicate in a genuine manner. Expressing concern and validating your support of their loss is crucial to establishing an understanding bond. Let them know you are there in whatever way you can be and although you may not even know what to say, you care. If they remain silent after you offer support step back however keep a close eye and offer a hug to show your warm regards.
What Not to Say
On top of the uncertainties already brewing in your mind, you may be wondering what not to say. To help clarify what to avoid during such intimate and tough circumstances here are some examples of what you are better off leaving out of the conversation.
* “I know how you feel.” Although it sounds sincere, one cannot understand the depth of their loss or the level of pain their friend or loved one may feel.
* The classic “He/She is in a better place.” Unless the one grieving sates this fact directly to you, it is best you not give any personal insight on what you think of the situation.
* “It’s part of God’s will.” Once again, do not state such a statement. They may become even more hurt or better yet rebel at an alleged plan they knew nothing about.
When helping your loved ones during the grievance process keep opinions to yourself, open your arms and let your love do the talking.